I love being married. It’s so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life. ~Rita Rudner
Last weekend, my husband and I celebrated our six year anniversary. Some days, it doesn’t seem like we’ve been married for that long, and other days, it seems like we’ve been married for much longer….much, much longer.
I remember going out to dinner with my sisters a couple of months before my wedding, and my older sister tried to give me a piece of advice about getting married. Don’t do it. She preceded to tell me that the person I loved right then, would be the same person I couldn’t stand to be around in the near future. I thought, No way. My response, I’d rather be miserable with him, then without him. She said, You think that now, and I did too, but you won’t feel that way later. Well, I hate to tell her….. but she was right.
Don’t get me wrong, not every day of my married life has been miserable. I honestly love my husband. However, there is something about that piece of paper that changes a relationship. You stop wanting to be the best person you can be, and your inner monster starts making appearances.
The woman that you used to think was so beautiful, becomes the woman that takes way too long to get ready or spends way too much on the way she looks. The man that used to be such a hard worker, becomes a workaholic, or worse, a man that you can’t motivate to do a thing. You both become selfish, frustrated because your needs aren’t being met, and angry because you feel like marriage was a mean trick society played on you.
Society hypes up marriage to be the ultimate romantic ending to your fairytale. Well, what happened to your prince that was supposed to drive you away in a brand new Lexus? He was suppose to take you to your brand new luxury home where you live happily ever after. I’m thinking it was the same thing that happened to the princess who was supposed to have the perfect figure, sing while she cooked delicious meals, clean like Cinderella, and still love you unconditionally when she found out that you weren’t a prince afterall.
We watch these romantic movies and read these novels about “true love.” We’re told that love is exciting and can overcome all odds. They portray love as being sexy, mysterious, and completely fulfilling. Have you ever noticed that many of the happy-endings, end at a beautiful ceremony or while the perfect couple rides off into the sunset? Rarely do we see an honest picture of real love or of a real marriage. This is just one of the many reasons we see so many marriages end in divorce.
Society has the wrong idea about love, and therefore, many people have the wrong idea about marriage. Now I’ll be honest, I’m not an expert on marriage, but over the next few days, I would like to share a little more about what the Bible says about marriage and about true love. Despite what many people feel, God truly does have a perfect plan for marriage. I hope you’ll join me as I study God’s word for how to improve a marriage and grow stronger in the Lord!
We hope that you’ll share what the Lord places on your heart and share any advice that you may have for a lasting marriage. Don’t keep any bits of wisdom from those that may be in need. This site is all about giving, and what better place to begin than in our own homes!
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